More thoughts on finding and keeping love.
I'm so honored to receive questions from you all, even private ones so keep them coming. I'll answer all of them!
Firstly I'd like to say Hollywood gives us a jaded view of what it is like to fall in love and be married. It's just entertainment, remember that.
Men cannot read your mind, No they don't just "know" what you want or what makes you happy. Tell them, in a polite direct way.
You do not have to have a body like a model. When surveyed men mostly notice a pretty face, soft hair and boobies (hehehehe).
When Husband was my boyfriend and mis behaved (a.k.a did not call me one day), I "suddenly" had a last minute girls weekend skiing in Stratton or my voicemail stopped working. Again, it isn't about playing games-but you have to keep them in line, so to speak.
After reading the book, "The Rules," I was engaged in 6 months. But, I already had a very serious committed relationship.
I knew Husband was in love with me when the following occurred. I was dead asleep, and the phone rings. Husband, attending a bachelor party, was on the other line. "I'm F-d!" Me, "Are you ok?" "Yes, but I'm F-d!" Me, "Why?" Husband, "Cause I'm surrounded by strippers, and all I can think about is YOU!" I knew right then and there, he loved me. He did not have to say it, but I knew Husband loved me as much as I loved him.
Please note, I'm not perfect. Neither is my marriage. We've been to marital counseling. This is just my perspective. I'm also not judgmental. So if you sleep with him on the 1st date, or stalk him--call me we'll work through it.
Me in Lilly Pulitzer by my pink tree!
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HAHAHA!!! I love this!! The same thing happened to me...same conversation except the Hubs was on Spring Break when we were in college and his words were almost identical to SCHubby!!! Too funny! Thanks for sharing! Have a great weekend!!
ReplyDeleteSo far all your man-catching advice is right on the money! Are coming to the EA House tour next week? Not sure how far up this way you get these days.
ReplyDeletemaybe we should do a review on "why men loves bitches" it's my current read... and has many EXCELLENT points.
ReplyDeletebest wishes for your anniversary!
Have a fabulous anniversary! :) Loving your advice!
ReplyDeleteThis is great! Happy Anniversary! And love the pic of you in Lilly P by the pink tree. Lilly herself would be jealous. :)
ReplyDeleteHappy anniversary -- I LOVE that you say you're on your first date. What a wonderful thought. There's lots of good relationship advice in Loving in the Moment by Gina Lake. People who like books by Byron Katie and Eckhart Tolle will enjoy it -- it helps you be in the Now in your relationships even when they're challenging -- and let's face it, they ALL are at some point! YOu know how people think you need to be so "honest" and always tell your spouse/partner how you feel and what you think? Well, guess what? Sometimes you can ignore certain negative thoughts and judgments. They can cause problems. I'm not saying ignore big stuff, but do you have to say everything that's negative? Sometimes you just be quiet -- it can really improve a relationship! (I have a friend who said she and her husband have a rule never to say anything bad about the other's families. She swears by it.)
ReplyDeleteHappy anniversary and happy Friday everyong.
LOLOLOLOL! I love that last line...stalking is never a good idea.
ReplyDeleteThe Rules you say? I've not heard of it. Hmmmm....let me investigate.
ReplyDeleteAs always, thank you for your excellent advice :)
Love the pink tree & am hoping that's a martini in your hand!
ReplyDeleteAnyone who thinks chasing a man is the way to go is dead wrong. Men adore the challenge of the hunt & will follow you anywhere if you make them *catch* you.
I guess our biggest rule that we never break is that we NEVER argue when we've been drinking. I mean, not even one drink. As a result, we seldom ever fight.
You are too cute in your Lilly! Great post, as always!
ReplyDeleteHave a great weekend and the happiest of anniversaries!
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that's so precious! best wishes and may you have many more wonderful anniversaries. :)
ReplyDeleteI am loving this series. So many true points.
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful anniversary this weekend! We are celebrating ours tomorrow at the beach.
Your advice about men not being mind readers is SPOT ON, sister!
ReplyDeleteLove his realization of love at a strip club;)
Your advice is amazing and you are so sweet! love, love, love the Lilly!! xoxo
ReplyDeleteGreat post! Happy Anniversary too!
ReplyDeleteWasn't that the greatest feeling after you KNEW he loved you?!?!?! (Even if he didn't actually say the words yet?)
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Happy Anniversary to you two. May many blessings come your way for many, many years!
ReplyDeleteRenie xox
I love the line..."I'm still on my first date!" Your advice is right on sister!
ReplyDeleteGod bless and have a terrific weekend!!!
Oh, Beth. How can anyone NOT love you? I hope Husband Dunn knows how lucky he is.
ReplyDeleteCute photos! Your stories are always so sweet. =)
ReplyDeleteAnother great post! My husband and I are celebrating our 21st anniversary next week.....
ReplyDeleteAmen to we can't read your mind. I don't even want to get started with how many arguments could be avoided if the Mrs. would have just told me what she wanted.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary! I respect and appreciate that you shared you have been to counseling - I am a big believer in getting help/support. Actually, I prefer to think of it as coaching...
ReplyDeleteYou are the best. Good advice all around. I love the last line though. One thing about me is that I'm not judgemental either. The facts aren't as important as the way someone treats you and that you have love!
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