Thursday, April 15, 2010

Love Story III

Went to the Phillies last night! Saw tons of cute, drunk men. I was with my two little ones. We ate in the executive dining room (SC has friends in  high places-kidding), and sat just above the dugout. So fun!



Keeping a man is today's discussion.

We've covered where to go find one. Once you are dating here is my advice:

If you are anything like me, it takes a lot of man to take me on. I spend more time at the spa and Lilly Pulitzer than I do doing dishes, laundry, making beds, and doing house work combined. I'm not kidding. Sorry, if you hate me but I'm being honest as a few of my darling friends in blog land are single and I need to marry them off so they can come play with me.  I also spend a lot of money on said hobbies. So not "any" man is going to be up for that challenge. (btw I go to the spa so much as SC has acute stage anxiety and refuses to take meds.) So unless you have a huge trust fund or a high paying job, he wants to decide if you are worth manning up for. If he doesn't call, he either:

#1 can't handle it
#2 is married
#3 is in the middle of a law suit (or some other stressful thing)

Don't call him. Don't text him. Don't fb/tweet/email him. Whatever it is--don't. Dating is not about playing games. But, you have to give him the freedom to decide if he is up to the challenge. I'm not saying never call or email. Just don't do it after 1st date. Until you've established that this man is your boyfriend get busy, and when you are with him be fun to be around. Moody ladies are much worse than crazy ones.

Collars up!

SC

24 comments:

  1. This is the God's honest truth. If a man isn't ready for what a woman has to offer or who she is, he can keep stepping. I followed these same rules and after almost nine years together and three kids, I'm still happy. You couldn't have said it better, Beth.

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  2. Great advice! And, I hate taking meds, too! Happy Thursday!

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  3. Best advice ever! DONOT call or contact him in anyway after the first date (I'd even say the first few dates, within reason). he has your number. If he likes you, he'll call.

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  4. You give the best advice!!! So true. If he can't handle it, he's not up to the challenge!

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  5. You should write a book...oh wait you already have! Haha! Great advice, as always!

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  6. Such great advice. This sort of works for finding a job I've finding out. The ones I chase don't want me, the ones I dodge, call. Just that allure of the challenge I guess.

    FourthGradeNothing.com

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  7. Wow Beth...never figured you to be so "High Maintanence"
    Great shot at the Phillies game with your kids...that is good stuff...stuff they will remember always.

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  8. Even though SC is about socialites on the main line and celebrates the preppy life, I actually do discuss many of my "theories" on men in the novel. xoxo
    SC

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  9. Wonderful advice. In fact, I've just forwarded this post to a girlfriend who needs to read it today :)

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  10. Having been married 33 years, I can support all that you've said so far...

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  11. "Moody ladies are worse than crazy ones"????? Seriously, you CRACK ME UP!!!!!! You are too funny, my dear!!!!

    XOXO

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  12. So important for him to be able to handle it. SO important! :)

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  13. I am going to have my daughter start reading your blog!

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  14. just what I needed to hear! all about the laws of supply and demand. sorry, but it is!

    ps- MoMo and I only do baseball games/etc when we're in box seats, so she tips her hat to you!

    xoox

    kHm

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  15. PS- mostly because we need our space from the masses and catering is always so much better in a box. and there is chardonnay.'

    xoox x 2

    kHm

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  16. QBS-OMG (I hate to admit, but I'm with you on the chard thing). We had fun, come visit and we'll bring you as our guest. xoxo
    SC

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  17. Yep, there are rules to follow and I told my daughter time and time again. Never...ever settle when choosing a mate.

    God bless and have a fun day Beth!!!

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  18. My mom was just telling me to never settle.

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  19. Great advice as always! "Social Climber Rules to Dating" continues. LOVE IT! :-) XOXO

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  20. You are right. If he likes you he calls, no if and or buts!
    You should have given a cutie at the game my number! I don't mind if they are tipsy...

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  21. Laughing at MCW above me here, don't you just love Molly, pray for her prince on a regular basis. Great advice, the only thing I want to add, don't give up. Wait until he's good and hooked ladies, I promise this works!

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Talk preppy to me! xoxo