When selecting the proper mate there is only 1 thing to keep in mind. They PICK YOU! Yes, that is right, they select you. Each and every boyfriend I ever had liked me first. The other rule with love, it's like a dance. You take a step forward, they take a step back. Now, since Husband and I were set up the playing field was not level. But, I could tell Husband was into me as he displayed non stalkerish interest.
On our first date we conveniently passed by his apartment on the way to my car. I later learned we had gone out of the way. To "warm" up we entered so I could use the powder room. I noticed his apartment was super cool and clean (a complete lie normally). But a sign he was showing off, also he kissed me, another good sign-but I still got the heck out of there. Later, He called me and made plans to take me out, and not just to dinner or drinks. We went on hikes etc.
Right away I could tell Husband was the one. (not love at first sight, it took a few dates.) I established Husband went to Dickinson college. This is where my Father attended, and worshiping Daddy as I do this was a great sign for Husband. They were in different fraternities but I was willing to overlook that since they were from different generations. Also, he skied-a prerequisite in our family.
At this post I want to give my top places to find a man. I do want to mention that I believe in Eharmony. My bestie Mimi met an amazing man that way. Other places:
Alaska (in the summer). No, I'm not kidding. The ratio of men to women is like, 20:1
Charity committees & volunteerism. Men have jobs they have to promote themselves and network
Chamber of commerce networking events, crawling with men!
Golf course, and club house afterwards
Home Depot or Lowes
Nice restaurant bars (particularly after work)
Casinos, men go there in droves for bachelor parties on the weekends. The groom is taken, but not all the grooms men
I think you catch my drift, go where men hang out. And it isn't at the mall, or spa.
I hope you are enjoying what I "know," but please note: I "know" nothing.